“PornStar” : A Poem

PornStar : A PoemPornStar : A Poem

A different perspective to the world of PornStar ( a person who appears in pornographic films ).

The poem show’s the artistic perception of the poet and not at all means to offend anyone in any manner.
The way you shake your ass,

The way u go up on that pole.

The clothes you shed up there,

For all these fuckin assholes.

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Instructions

Things You'll Need:

  • Flowers
  • Romantic Gifts
  1. Step 1

    Think about when and where you want to tell her. Is there a special place you want to be? A certain day? For example, you might want to tell her at the restaurant where you went on your first date, or on the two-month or nine-month anniversary of your first date.

  2. Step 2

    Set the mood and be romantic. Buy her flowers or a romantic gift.

  3. Step 3

    Look at her directly, take her hand and tell her how positive you feel about her. Give her examples of things you really like about her. Be sincere.

  4. Step 4

    Tell her how you feel being with her, and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with her.

  5. Step 5

    Follow these positive statements with telling her you love her in whatever way feels best for you. For example: "I feel I've come to love you," "I realize I love you," "I feel so much love for you," "I've fallen in love with you," or simply, "I love you."

There are some feelings we have when infatuated that we don’t have when we’re feeling love. Some of the “symptoms” of infatuation are; feelings of panic, uncertainty, overpowering lust, feverish excitement, impatience, and/or jealously.

When infatuated, we are thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner in infatuation” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. And most infatuation relationships have a high degree of sexual charge around them. Somehow being with them is not complete unless in ends in some type of sexual encounter.

Do any of these “symptoms” resemble feelings of love? Hardly. So why do we become infatuated? Where does it come from? Perhaps it’s biological.

When infatuated we experience a surge of dopamine that rushes through the brain causing us to feel good. Norepinephrine flows through the brain stimulating production of adrenaline (pounding heart). Phenylethalimine (found in chocolate) creates a feeling of bliss. Irrational romantic sentiments may be caused by oxytocin, a primary sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and feelings of emotional attachment. Together these chemicals sometimes override the brain activity that governs logic.

The body can build up tolerances to these chemicals so it takes more of the substance to get that special feeling of infatuation. People who jump from relationship to relationship may be craving the intoxicating effects of these substances and may be “infatuation junkies”.

When the chemical flood dries up, the relationship either moves into a loving romantic one or there is disillusionment, and the relationship ends.

You’ve heard the old saying, “Women: you can’t live with them; you can’t live without them” or the even more popular version, “Women: you can’t live with them; you can’t shoot them”.

Either way you look at it women drive men crazy (in a negative way) and women drive men crazy (in a positive way).

What is it about women that men hate and what still makes men keep coming back for more?

What Men Hate About Women

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1. They talk too much.

Have you ever heard a woman talk on the phone? Jeez-us, you’ll hear her jabber and jabber for a long period of time without even taking a breath. Then there will be dead silence for a long time. This isn’t because she’s done talking. In fact, that’ll neverhappen.

Instead, it’s because she’s giving her friend a chance to jabber and jabber without taking a breath. The bad thing is that they talk the same way to men, and expect us to listen and then respond! What they don’t realize is that men don’t have that long of an attention span for anything except sports, food, and sex.

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2. They spend too much money.

It’s no secret that women love to shop. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if women were the ones that invented the jewelry store and the mall. If they want to spend their own money on petty things such as designer clothes, jewelry, and makeup, then men have no problem with it. The problem comes in when they go shopping with their man’s money.

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3. They nag and bitch a lot.

If you’re a single guy, then you may not have encountered this yet. A lot of women are really sneaky about it. She’ll be very sweet and seem as if she’s the perfect match for you. So, you decide to marry her, then wham! All of a sudden this monstrous beast comes out in her like you’ve never seen. She wants to know why she always has to beg you to take out the trash and why she never gets any help with the housework.

She tells you what a loser you are because you didn’t call to tell her you were going to the bar after work and she makes it a federal case when you want to hang out with your friends. As she’s calling you a loser and telling you all the things that you do wrong, she then says that she feels unappreciated. What happened to that sweet little angel you were with prior to getting married?

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4. They have mood swings, show their emotions for everyone to see, and cry often.

Women can have some wicked mood swings, especially at particular times of the month, so they claim. Some women are moody all the time. One minute they can be screaming at you for something you did and the next minute they can be crying because they’re sorry they treated you like that and they’ll tell you how much they love you.

What ever happened to consistency? This can happen so fast that a lot of times that it has men’s heads spinning. Also, men are taught from an early age not to show too much in the way of emotions. Getting too emotional is weak. Apparently no one ever told women this. In fact, someone must have told women that they should show more emotions to make up for what their men don’t show.

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5. They have mothers.

Again, if you’re a single guy, you may not yet know what I’m talking about. However, once you’re married, you get introduced to a force more evil than your wife. It’s called the mother-in-law. A mother-in-law doesn’t have bouts of being sweet and she will never tell you how much she loves you or appreciates you.

She’s just nasty and bitchy all the time. You’ll be convinced that she has a vendetta against you, especially since every time you see her, she gives you the “I’m going to kill you in your sleep” look.

What Men Love About Women

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1. They satisfy a man’s sexual needs.

While it may be true that not all women will satisfy every sexual desire men have, they will satisfy a man’s need. A man’s sexual needs are very basic. They just need sex. That’s it. Nothing complex, just plain good old-fashioned sex. Anything else is a bonus. For most men, this is the number one coolest thing about women.

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2. They cook.

Traditionally, women are the ones that do the cooking. Although some women don’t or won’t cook, as a rule women love to cook for their men. You’ve heard the old saying, “A way to man’s heart is through is stomach”. It’s true - well, mostly.

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3. They clean the house.

Apparently women can see dirt before men because they seem to constantly be cleaning. They may bitch a bit when they do it, but if you can learn to tune the bitching out, it’s really nice. You don’t have to lift a finger and your house is clean all the time! How great is that? You can be watching Sunday afternoon football and by the time the game is over, your house is clean. Now, that’s magical.

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4. Men love the way women look.

Men may often complain that women spend too much money. Of course, it’s true. However, once in a while, when they go shopping, they will purchase some incredibly hot lingerie, a sexy bikini, or a tight little outfit that shows off all of her curves in all the right places. The spending money part still sucks, but showing it off is a great benefit.

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5. They make men feel important.

All you have to do is show a woman a little respect and buy her flowers every once in a while and in return, she will think that you are the most amazing person in the world. When she’s not bitching, she’ll show you just how much she appreciates you and will be very loyal. You may perceive this as being clingy, and often times women are, but the fact that she worships you is pretty cool.

Most younger men they feel that the bad outweighs the good and that’s why they don’t get married right away. As men get older, they start to realize that there’s a lot to be said for having a home cooked meal, a clean house, a sexy woman, feeling important, and having sex on a regular basis. How about you? Does the good outweigh the bad or does the bad outweigh the good?

"It is better to have loft and lost than to never have loft at all." — Groucho Marx

Falling in love is a magical experience that happens between two people. So why do people fall in love? Professor Arthur Aron from State University of New York at Stonybrook has been exploring the dynamics of what happens when two people are falling in love:

Q: What motivates people to seek out love?
A: Our primary motivation as human beings is to expand the self and to increase our abilities and our effectiveness. One of the ways we accomplish this is through our relationships with other people. We have learned in our research that it is important to feel that you have the ability to be an effective person, especially in our relationships.

Q: How does this theory of self-expansion explain the process of falling in love?
A: Usually, we fall in love with a person that we find attractive and appropriate for us, but also someone who demonstrates that they are attracted to us. This creates a situation where a great opportunity is open to us for self-expansion. The fact that they are attracted to us offers a significant opportunity — when we perceive this, we feel a surge of exhilaration!

Q: Does it always work this way?
A: No, an interesting exception to this occurs if we feel badly about ourselves. The process gets thrown off if we can't believe that another persons finds us attractive — like the Groucho Marx joke where we don't want to belong to a club that would have us for a member. We tend to miss out on opportunities for falling in love if we don't feel good about ourselves.

Q: What conditions are best for meeting someone and falling in love?
A: When you meet someone under conditions that are highly arousing — a political demonstration, turbulence on a plane, a stimulating performance — a time when the body is stirred up and excited, we tend to experience attraction at a heightened level. This effect is well documented but the explanations for it are very controversial. I tend to believe that we come to associate the arousal of the situation with this person and our own self-expansion.

Q: When do we fall in love?
A: Contrary to what most people think, the statistics show that most people fall in love with someone that they have known for a while. People only report falling in love quickly about 1/3 to 40 percent of the time. Of course, this varies from culture to culture. Falling in love happens differently between cultures but it does occur in most cultures.

Q: How does our appearance factor into the equation of falling in love?
A: This is interesting; we have found that if you are very unattractive, it can hurt you a lot in forming romantic relationships. However, being attractive doesn't help that much.

Q: How do you explain that?
A: We have found that two important characteristics, kindness and intelligence, are extremely important in the process of falling in love. And attractiveness is not connected to these things. These two attributes are things that people learn about someone from knowing them over time. Intelligence is important in all aspects of life, especially in love. But kindness is the strongest indicator for a successful long-term relationship.

Unspoken and unacknowledged expectations take a large toll in relationships. In having expectations, you're expecting your partner to be a certain way in order to believe they love and care about you. If you don't get what you expect, you conclude all kinds of negative things about the relationship that may not be true.

Useful Questions:

* Do your expectations have to be fulfilled for you to be happy? If so, why?
* Do you expect your partner to conform to your wants? What does it mean when they don't?
* Do you have preset rules in your love relationships? If so, what are they and why?
* Do you find yourself often saying “he should” or “she should”?
* Do you have any “If you loved me you would...[fill in the blank]'s”? If so, what are they?
* Can you think of a time you didn't do what someone wanted you to do? Did you love them, even though you didn't do what they wanted? Could it be the same with your partner?
* Do you use another’s words and actions as “evidence or proof” that they love you?. If your partner does that thing or activity you want, then do they love you? If they don't, is that a sign they don't love you or care? If yes, why?
* Understand everyone has different wants, desires, and beliefs about what it means to be loving.
* Be Honest
* Examine what expectations you DO have, then openly discuss them with your partner. Find out what theirs are.

You love each other and that's why you got together in the first place, but you don't really seem to have much in common anymore. You’re into philosophy and art. They're into sports. You like books and going for walks, and she always wants to go sailing. But you tell yourself that marriage is a sacrifice. A give and take. You’ve been told you should put aside your own interests to make the relationship work. You have to compromise, right? But when you give up what you love for the sake of the relationship, you end up resenting the person and conclude you don't have anything in common.

If you had these differences when you fell in love, chances are it's not about having nothing in common, but not having the connection and intimacy you once had.

Useful Questions:

  • Has the amount of one-on-one time changed since you first met?
  • Do you still share everything with your partner like you use to?
  • What would happen if you did what you wanted, and they did what they wanted?
  • How much time do you have to spend with your lover to feel you have a successful relationship? How did you arrive at that amount? What would it mean if you had separate interests?
  • Do you see yourself and your partner as two separate people who choose to be together or do you feel some type of obligation?
  • Do you believe “Love means to sacrifice.”? If so, why?